How do you spend your time

Eulogy:

 [yoo-luh-jee] noun, plural eulogies:

"..a speech or writing in praise of a person or thing, 

especially a setoration in honor of a deceased person."

From Late Latin eulogia, from Greek: praise, from eu- + -logy ;

influenced by Latin ēlogium - short saying, inscription;

also called (archaic) eulogium (juːˈləʊdʒɪəm).

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"Have you noticed that when people die,

 their eulogies celebrate life very differently

 from the way we define success in our everyday existence?

No matter how much a person spends his or her life burning the candle at both ends, chasing a toxic definition of success and generally missing out on life, the eulogy is always about the other stuff: what they gave, how they connected, how much they meant to the lives of the real people around them, small kindnesses, lifelong passions and what made them laugh. 

So the question is: 

Why do we spend so much time on what our eulogy is not going to be?"